Wednesday, 26 September 2012

What Love is Not



     Hiya, I wrote this down and i felt i should share with you. Many people have different ideas about the word Love. Here are some beliefs that are totally wrong.

1.   Love is not a feeling(i.e based on emotions) but a decision;
Many people believe Love falls on them automaticaly and is based on their feelings. Love is not a feeling but a decision that takes a well thought out process. Which incudes whether the person is a xtian, his or her character, how the purpose of the person fits wth yours e.t.c. Boaz took out time to know about her. You cannot afford to be led by your emotions. They are too flimsy to trust.

Tuesday, 4 September 2012

Lots of LOve

LOTS OF LOVE

Yes. This is still a continuation. The third step of living a love filled life is to love others, plain and simple. For a recap,  the first two steps are
1.    Having Love in your life (Accepting Jesus check it out at  http://lovingtalkz.blogspot.com/2012/08/about-love.html )
2.    Loving Yourself( It’s Okay to be Different, check it out @  http://lovingtalkz.blogspot.com/2012/08/about-love-2.html )
3.    Loving Others.

You may want to ask me who the “others” are. Others means everyone that is not you. ‘Ronke wait, do you mean I need to love those who I don’t even know.’ Yes, the whole of Humanity.
The premise is from the fact that we have a God who is love and loves the whole of humanity. It is our duty to love our father’s creations, especially Human Beings ( I don’t love mosquitoes too). Then you also need to love those who hate you (sounds like a tall order). Matthew 5: 46-48 (the message Bible says) If all you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that.  If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that.  "In a word, what I'm saying is, Grow up. You're kingdom subjects. Now live like it. Live out your God-created identity.

Tuesday, 14 August 2012

About Love 2

The second step is to Love yourself. I know you want to take a pass and believe its a given, but I beg to differ. There are a lot of people who don't love themself.

1. Do you have a low self esteem
2. Do you believe you are not special.
3. Do you wish you were someone else (that fine gal or rich dude)
4. Do you never take your words serious.
5. Are you patient with yourself or too harsh (Do you allow yourself to make mistakes)
6. Do you dress unimportantly or half naked (Do you cherish your image)

...... There are so many questions to ask our self. You have to love yourself before you can love your neighbor (remember the golden  rule LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF) so it implies if you don't love yourself  then you can't love your neighbour.

Thursday, 9 August 2012

About Love

Love to me seems to be the most interesting, confusing, and misunderstood topic in the world . What is love? Or what does it really look like. Is it the beating of the heart, or the kissing of the lips. Is it the moans of pleasure or the hug of a mother. Is it the commitment of a friend or the ring on a finger..

I really wanted to understand what love is then I went to search the scriptures (The writings of the originator of love) and I found some interesting characteristics of it. Oh we all know it but I will still write it for the sake of those who don’t.

Love is PATIENT, KIND, DOES NOT ENVY (kinda hard especially when another is favoured above you), IS NOT PROUD, IS COURTEOUS, NOT ANGERED EASILY, THINKS NO EVIL, DOES NOT REJOICE IN SIN.(e.t.c paraphrased from 1 Cor. 13, Read the whole chapter jare)

I can go on and on but if you really want to experience and exhibit true love, all of these traits should be seen in you ............yeah yeah, I can read your mind. How possible can that be, It seems like a high record. I will be posting from time to time how each trait can be related to your love life, but, how can I possess all these traits? Is it possible? I know those questions are on your mind. I believe it is possible but there are three steps to achieve  it.

1.    You need Love in your life:
 God is Love and if we have him in or life, we can now be on our journey of not only experiencing but exhibiting true love. Are you wondering why your life seems to be so full of hatred? Do you really yearn for someone who can love you despite your inadequacies? Then I have got good news for you. Jesus is that person. He took me from the dunghill of sin, inadequacies and uglyness. I felt so dirty, Yet he picked me up and cleaned me up(for real)